The Secret Weapon To Success
Sometimes the hardest thing most of us are guilty of is asking for help. Did I see you nodding your head? Whether it’s running a household, starting a business, coaching the crew or hosting a meeting. We feel ashamed of our need for others, and think that we’re supposed to be independent superheroes all of the time. Well, here’s a surprise: workaholics aren’t heroes. They are probably just “control freaks” that can’t delegate.
There is an underlying thought that if you can’t do it yourself it means that you’ll be seen as a failure – wrong! This expectation to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders and look good doing it. When asked how their day is going, most people boast about how busy they are. And yet, this unnecessary pressure leads to anxiety, disempowerment and a feeling of inadequacy.
There is no shame in asking for help, no matter how big or small. It is unreasonable to burden the stress of being too proud to get support. And no matter how amazing you are, you can’t (and shouldn’t) do everything yourself.
“Your most important task as a leader is to teach people how to think and ask the right questions so that the world doesn’t go to hell if you take a day off.”
Jeffrey Pfeffer, Stanford University School of Business
Small business owners are especially vulnerable to the ineffectiveness of solo-managing, performing each and every task themselves. Yet being able to delegate effectively will allow you to spend your time in a more meaningful way. Like a weight being lifted, it will free you from the stress of everything having equal priority.
It’s nice to think you have everything under control, and it can even be a bit of an ego boost to be indispensable when you’re the only one who can handle certain tasks. But it’s not sustainable, and it’s not good for you, your team, or the company.
By giving your employees more responsibility through delegating, you are communicating to them that their work is valuable and that you trust them to handle their new tasks. When your employees are empowered in this way, it counteracts the hierarchy mindset. Instead, the flow of work between the boss and employee benefits and you each become integral to the other’s success.
If you’re struggling to stay on top of your workload, it is not a reflection of your inadequacies. It’s okay to feel vulnerable, and it takes courage to relinquish control. Focus on your strengths and let others take care of the rest. Learn how to delegate and I promise you, you’ll wish you had learnt to let go earlier.
“Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.” –General George Smith Patton, Jr.
Are you having trouble delegating or outsourcing? How did you break the chains and regain your freedom.